"I've requested to add you as a friend"

Does the title above sound familiar?

For the past 4 years I barely used MSN. I was bored of it and really had no need for it since V and I were at the same school. Now suddenly I seem to be on quite often, - more than I'd like actually. The other day a girl I knew from high school messaged me out of the blue. No "hi," or "how are you doing," just, "where are you teaching?" (my MSN name was school related so that's how she knew I was a teacher). But her message seemed kinda abrupt and somewhat rude (as I interpreted it) seeing that this was the first thing she said to me in over 4 years. Well being the annoying person that I am, I messaged back to say, "you don't talk to me for 4 years and now you don't even ask me how I'm doing?" She didn't reply. I put a smiley to show that I was joking around. Still no reply.

The next day I get the same message from her. I explained that I had responded to her the day before and she hadn't replied so I had left the conversation after a few minutes. Her next message? She wanted to know what school I was teaching at. Um hello, did you not read what I just said? (I didn't say that, just thought it). I didn't reply. She asked what grade. Apparently this girl is trying to make connections so that she can get into teaching. Well she ain't getting any help from me if that was how she was going to approach me about it. If you're not interested in me than at least pretend to be! Pretend to care about my life before fishing for information to benefit you!

I have no patience for people who just talk to me when they want something, so I deleted her off my MSN. My sister is at the stage of her teenage life where she seems to want to have as many people as possible on her list. I, on the other hand, want to have as little as possible. Call me anti-social, I don't care! I'm busy and I'm tired of being nice to silly people.

The day after, I received one of these messages in my inbox: "I've requested to add you as a friend" (to one of those friendshipy sites). Yeah right! Suddenly she wants to be my "friend?!" After 4 years of silence and then the awkward messaging on MSN? That's a joke.

Call it what you want...

Naseeb
hi5
Facebook
Friendster
WAYN
Desi-Planet
etc. whatever!


I just have absolutely no interest in re-connecting with people who want to add me to a list so that I can make their list longer, and that person more "popular." Are you kidding, you actually know 500+ people? How do you make time for all your "friends?!" I certainly don't have 500+ friends. I don't even want to!

In the past I've tried a few of the friendshipy sites after being bombarded with the I've requested to add you as a friend message too many times (including from the abovementioned girl). I have to admit that at first it was nice connecting with people I liked and did miss, but then after awhile, it seemed that mainly people I didn't know, wanted to message me - despite the fact that I had I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO PEOPLE I DON'T KNOW written in my profile. That struck me as funny. Maybe people don't know how to read. They should go back to grade 11. I could teach them. Oh well.

My findings:

1. Most of the single guys on these sites seem kinda desperate. Just look at their profile and see not 500+ but 1000+ people listed - mainly all girls. What kind of message does that send out? What kind of girl would want to be with a guy like that? But it goes both ways, what kind of guy would want to be with a girl that has 1000+ friends who mainly all male? I won't even get started on the strange pick-up lines these guys use.

2. Most of the girls, well they need to be more aware of their profile/pictures. Really. If a guy becomes interested in a girl because of how much of her body she shows off... well we all know that he's just interested in one thing. Save the revealing clothes for the bedroom. This isn't a beach. Unless it's a beach photo, then I'd assume people would be dressed. And unless it's a wedding/party photo, I'd assume you don't wear make-up caked on everyday. I understand that people want to show themselves looking as great as they can, but it's possible to look and be decent too. If in every picture you've posted, you're wearing something revealing, then it makes you look like a ...

3. Enough with all the supposedly "sexy" poses. I find it extremely weird when people take pictures of themselves (like holding the camera and pointing it at your face). Not only is it really vain, but it just looks, well foolish! I'm not talking about pictures that are meant to be funny (like my locker hug!), but photos that are meant to highlight a person's physical appearance. Guys seem to want to appear all tough but most of the time they don't know how to position their face (and you can see up a few noses). Girls want to appear sexy so they try to do some sultry pose that ends up make them look like they're trying too hard (save these pictures for the boyfriend!). If you're simply a member of the site in order to meet someone of the opposite sex (which it seems for most), then at least invest in a good picture. Try taking a picture with a group of people so that it looks natural. Or instead of pouting, try smiling (because otherwise you look like a fish).

Am I being harsh? These were just my observations. But this doesn't mean that there aren't any normal people out there who just want to stay in touch with their friends. My sister pointed out that my blog is similar to those sites. But is it? I don't think so. It's like a hobby. It fills my void of not writing an essay/story or something else creative. I appreciate people reading about my life and leaving their thoughts and opinions. And I like reading what other people write - people who I know, and people who I don't know. It's fun. And if there were some sort of function, I'd request to add my regular readers (who I don't know) as friends in my life. Because you all seem like cool people. Aww :) Except the anonymous weirdos of course.

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This just in: while I was typing this post, the girl I mentioned just messaged me to ask how much money I make. Wow. Some people don't give up. I should have blocked her before hitting delete :S